Midlife Myths & Realities: Andrea M. Slominski, Ph.D.
I call these transformative power years, between 45 and 70.
“Regency.” I went back to school at 55, right in the middle of them, and discovered that we are creating a new developmental life stage!
“I call them Maiden, Householder, Regent, and Wise Woman.”
Mythologically speaking, women’s lives used to be measured in three stages, Maiden, Mother, and Crone. However, with our new life stage landing between Mother and Crone, it’s evident that our lives now have four stages.
I call them Maiden, Householder, Regent, and Wise Woman. I prefer these metaphoric titles because they are more inclusive and representative of today’s women with all of our varied lifestyles than the old terms from antiquity.
Regency Years:
Regency lasts 25 years, from 45-70. You’ll change just as much in these 25 years as you did in your first 25 years! Our first 25 years are about physical growth and development. The Regency 25 are about soul growth. Regency incorporates the triple transformations that occur within a woman’s body, mind, and soul. If you live long enough, you’ll go through all three of them. They are pre-programmed into our bodies and psyches.
Why did I choose the name Regency? Because a Regent woman rules, has authority, and makes her own decisions while holding space for another who is yet to come. As Regent women, claiming sovereignty over our lives—for ourselves—we take action, grow, and learn, developing and holding our power and authority for our inner Wise Woman to come.
We’re not “queens,” living a royal, out-of-touch life, removed from the day-to-day with servants, unlimited wealth, and a security detail. We are creators of our lives now, in the real world, making the choices that are ours to make, desiring sovereignty, agency, and the respect that we have earned.
Who is this Regent woman? She is you!
If you like The Regent’s Manifesto you can have your own free copy. Want to find out more? You’re invited to watch my free Masterclass about the triple transformation women go through at this time of life. It’s less than 40 minutes and packed with good info!
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About the Author:
Andrea M. Slominski, Ph.D., is an author, speaker, and women’s midlife coach. During her dissertation research and study, she explored the new life stage for women that has emerged over the past 100 years.
Naming this new life stage, from ages 45-70, Regency, Dr. A. has spoken at conferences, published articles, and coached women to make the most of their emerging power years. Dr. A. guides women 45+ through the often-tumultuous transformations during perimenopause, midlife, and menopause. She uses tools that include creativity, story, mythology, imagination, ceremony, and ritual. If you need support for your Regency years, including all the changes of midlife and menopause, I’m here for you. Email me at info@drandreaslominski.com
love this! I am a Regent woman.
Why, YES… YES, you are. So good to hear from you, lady. Hope all is well.. and hope to see you in Portugal next Spring. xoxo